Yeah I was just reading a book about dealing with anger after an affair .... things I am processing and ya know ... doing 'me' work and read about that, then recalled W said her PT noticed it and mentioned it ... seemed to have a couple dots to connect and not that one can make sense of the MLC I did/am thinking about how that certainly could create that 'alien being' thing we all know to well.
As far as OM2, OM is really a bad term. She worked with him a few years ago and seems he has been a friend she has leaned on during the A (I was aware of the friendship prior to BD), asking questions about OM1 trying to make sense of things ... OM2 has told W that OM1 was a 'player' from the start. I do not have a problem with him as far as friends go .. but sure I am a bit more alert and curious to his motivations ... he recently is single, does the gym thing often as his GAL. If W and he meet up and work out at the gym (he trains) I have no issue as I told W ... but if I happen to be out and discover they had lunch without her letting me know .. yeah that looks/sounds shady ... and thats what I discussed with W, its more about the OPEN/HONEST policy than it is about OMs ... as I told her , she could easily had gone for OM2 if she wanted but she opted to try to save her marriage ... and one of those things we need to work on is trust ... which I have very little with her at the moment. I stole the Robx train of thought and told W I was not going to waste energy and time making sure she was being honest and faithful ... that life would not work for me ... however if I do stumble on something hidden, lied about, deleted .. that too is not a relationship I wish to be in.
So .. seed/boundary planted and its a wait and see for me.
She did call me up to discuss some trivial 401k stuff ... temp check to see if I was upset I think, I was PMA and going about my work day. Still approaching this with the DB mindset thank goodness ... Cali 1.0 would have been a wreck.
