Heading toward affair- what to do?

[hopeOK]

Hope,

Earlier, and at least TWICE, I urged you:

No, no emails. Get DEFINITIVE, 100% proof first, and then confront him in person (rehearsing ahead of time, out loud while alone if you have to), and then you can follow THAT up with an email to clarify any points you feel need clarifying after the confrontation, or add anything you forgot to address. . . .

You are hopelessly stuck in No Man's Land of Passive-Aggressiveness, which is the WORST place you can be. You'd be better off blindly trusting his every move (which I'm NOT advocating!) than you would be to do this halfway-down-the-middle thing, whereby you have no proof of things and you react emotionally and just accuse him anyway.

I'm left shaking my head here, and not sure how to best help you.


Starsky

Ugh. I know. I shouldn't have said anything about his extra stops on friday. But I was so worked up & I tried to calm myself down but gave up, I guess. Then it all went downhill from there. Then I laid out my boundaries & he panicked & took action.

So now I'm left just in a big mess. So my 100% proof was only that he was talking to her again... not any 100% proof that they were doing anything more. I had a knee jerk reaction and I regret it now.

I am so bad at this. I let my emotions and my panic get the best of me.