Matt777 - by focus inward you mean think about what I want not what she's doing or will do, right?
Cadet - I thought that zip it was what your meant, thank you for clarifying.
Photka - thank you for your kind words, everyday someone new pops up to help and that's such a wonderful feeling.
- Nobody has ever learnt anything important from happiness and success; problems make us grow - Consult your plan, not your feelings - If you haven't set goals, how can you expect to achieve anything?