Still no closer to understanding whether the "first love" thing has any bearing. There are articles dotted around the net saying it creates a special bond that is to be concerned by as it's very strong. Having said that as no one has directly responded yet on the question gives me hope that it's nothing to be feared or overly concerned by.
Even if there were some truth to the "special bond" theory, it doesn't mean that bond is never broken. People can fantasize about a former lover and wonder about all the "what ifs". Some actually go too far into that fantasy and have to see reality for themselves. That is what your WW will have to experience. Things are quite different now from when they were younger and dating. If there's one thing that will draw out true colors in a person, it's life. Doesn't sound as if he has a good track record. In time, she will start seeing what his other W's saw.
I am hesitant to advise anyone on financial matters, other than tell you to protect yourself. Get legal advice. Don't trust a WW to do the right thing.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
