Heading toward affair- what to do?

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"When we get back from vacation I am thinking I will bring up my boundaries again in regards to me not willing to be in an open relationship & see where he stands on that. Good idea?

I guess I am just still reeling from this weekends conversation & needing to refocus. He has gotten back a bit of control & seems to feel better about where he stands where I feel like I have lost a bit of something...."

Hope, I think it is less about bringing up your boundaries again and more about what you are going to do as your boundaries are not being respected. I don't think talking about it more than once achieves anything. It's not about where he stands on being in an open relationship, it's where you stand.

I think this may be why you are feeling you have lost something...