This week is the anniversary of my BD. My sitch has been a very slow moving one where very little happens (which is why after all this time, I still am only on my eighth thread)- but all of the sudden this last week there has been a fairly major development.
Just to recap for anyone newish who may be reading. My BD was pretty out of the blue and my STBX moved in with the OW, who lives an hour away, that same day. While he doesn't have the kids very frequently, because he has them on school days, all the driving back and forth has been kind of hard on them. I'm not 100% sure, but I believe that OW owns the house they were living in.
So last week, out of the blue, he sent me an email that he was now living in an apartment back in the town we live in (its within walking distance of the school) with no additional comment.
I immediately assumed things had blown up with OW, but when D3 spent the night there she babbled some things about OW that made it sound like she was there - although again, I'm not really sure. D7 is back east visiting her grandparents - when she gets back she can hopefully give me a more coherent idea about what is going on. It sounds like maybe this is a second residence for them/STBX for the days he has the girls?
Either way - I guess its a positive that he's showing signs of actually starting to think of the kids welfare for the first time in a year.
I'm not looking forward to seeing him and possibly her around town though (it's a pretty small town- it will definitely happen). It's actually been kind of nice that I've never had to worry about that. I'm also a little surprised. STBX ran into my sister at the grocery store once about 3 months ago and he literally turned around and ran away. Now he's putting himself in a position where these kinds of run ins will happen more frequently.
So - to summarize - I don't know what the heck is going on. I'm going back east to visit his parents and pick up D7 next week - maybe they will have some sort of clue. I find this all exhausting - I wish we were at a place where I could just ask him.
Mozza - Yes it sounds like we are quite similar. As a kid, I would have never dreamed that I would end up in a career that required so much math. My actual area of expertise is Process Improvement, and seeing the patterns and getting the numbers to improve is something I am both good at and enjoy immensely. Every once in a while I can't believe I didn't end up teaching History or English - that seemed like a more likely trajectory throughout most of my youth. I can do a lot of the work for my graduate degree online - so I'm hoping it will work a little better for me than the undergraduate stuff.
