Walk away wife and my journey

[Huddy]

I see a lot of you, in me. 17 weeks in and the process continues. I am seeing very limited improvements, but it ain't time to get the flags out.

OK. So you're doing your best, but W isn't going to come back instantly. You're four weeks in. The pain will get worse before it gets better. Expect W to remember nothing and act as if everything is your fault. Expect to be treated like sh1t for nothing; expect any effort you have made to interact better with your kids to be ignored/unnoticed; expect to be screamed at for no apparent reason; expect legal issues to creep in and finally, expect to feel depressed, lonely, anxious and that the world is going to end.

Right. That's reality sorted out. The best thing you can do is LISTEN to what she says. DO NOT beg or plead - it's an instant turn off. DO NOT row in front of the kids. DO let her have some time and space. Just because she's going out, doesn't mean she's automatically looking for another partner. Finally, DO what works. If you try something, and make a mistake, don't panic, but don't revisit it (I guess you have already broken all these rules - don't sweat we all have).

Keep posting and you'll get good advice and buy the book off Amazon, it'll cost you a few pence secondhand.