Signing the Big D - What to do Next?

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When my D was finalized I moved into my new house so that kept me busy for quite a while. If you have read the book and followed along with other people then you know what to do, GAL. I would suggest doing things that are just for you.

I found that the D really changed my mindset and I went completly dark with the XW. When exchanging the kids I may only have said two or three words. Making her role in my life the absolute minimum possible really helped. I was not rude or mean but I definetely was not warm with her.

Spend time with friends too, it helped when I could talk with them about it when I wanted to and I could also just have fun and not think about it.

Emotions should start to level out but it will take time. I still have moments but the highs and lows dont swing up and down wildly anymore.

Staying active or at least engaged on the board helped me also. I journaled for a while about weekly. I dont post as much as I used too but there wasnt too much to report either.

Hang in there and think of positives everyday. I refused to let myself get bummed out and sad. I allow myself two days to feel sorry for myself and then I get back to work on me.

Hope this helps