You don't be rude about it if she does ask, you be vague and then direct it back on her if she pursues it more. You need to find your mojo and get back to the person you were. This needy/desperate person(which we all were) has to die out for the new, strong ghost to be created/found.

IF she asks where you're going you just say "Just out", be vague with your answer. If she asks specifically where afterwards, you just replay "Why are you interested?"

This is very likely to shut her down from asking anymore because a person whos done with the M isn't going to care, showing she cares might lead you on and she doesn't want to give you that appearance at all. Not because she does, she might not at all, she just doesn't want you to think she does.

In house separation is difficult Ghost, I wont lie to you. My situation is different than yours as I will be physically separated eventually. Just being in the same house and seeing everything happen is going to rip your mind apart over time. Focus on you and try not to think about what she is thinking.

I blamed myself in the beginning for all the problems(very similar to yours). its only now I see the real reason we are getting D'ed. She was unhappy and thought she could be happier with another man, basically we are getting a D because she wanted to pursue an A. I also thought my W could never be that type of person. The fact shes went out clubbing with a newly separated woman could be a sign. She might have a taste for the single life and want to go after it.

This isn't going to be an easy or short process. I made some amazing changes (ones you are starting) by the second month and I'm still here on the path to D 7 months later. I've changed everything I can think of that my W has ever complained of and it may never mean anything for me and her, but for me it means everything. Refocus your attention to having those changes for you, not her.

The situation with the W is completely different than it was around BD because of how I have changed during this gift of time. It may mean nothing to getting my W back but vital to any future I do have. You can do the same.

Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be