Walk away wife and my journey

[ATPeace]

Ok so here is a question

The reason my wife wanted to separate from me Stems from the following reasons
My wife was complaining about how little I did in the relationship with regard to household chores cleaning ironing laundry she told me I did very little with the children and how little time I wanted to spend with her I made her feel lonley but one of her biggest complaints was me putting myself and my hobbies in front of her wants and needs

So I GAL and this involves me spending even less time with her and our children I decide to go out Monday or Tuesday evening I join a gym or a class and this takes me away from my kids on that evening every week

So would this not just cause my wife thinks to herself see I knew he did not want to spend time with his children there he goes off again doing things that he wants to do putting himself first

How do I GAL knowing that this is putting myself in front of her and my children and this was one of the main reasons for separating

Please can you help me on this point

Many thanks
Gaty