Ha Matt777 Im half way through your sitch! Thread 7! Looks like my current GAL is to go to our bedroom and read your sitch! I actually smilled at a couple things you wrote! Wish it was like fb I could just hit like! Zeus Im up for any help regarding todays situation.
Well grad party today I did way way slip! This is so hard! I text him last night ILY whyyyyyy? after he won his first race! And we ML today! again. whyyyyyy? It was probably the best time in over a year! I have to stop though! I want a healthy relationship! He did something very weird last night though! Any ideas on the behavior? I told him the girls and I were not coming in two weeks to races! He asked why because of kids or OW? Why would he care if OW bothered me? Why would he initiate ML?
As far as I can tell, he is still being the same [censored] to you that he has been. So why are you rewarding that behavior by having sex with him and telling him you love him? I get that it FEELS good for you. But do you feel it's consistent with the changes you have been trying to make? Which do you think he is going to believe is "for real" the changes you are working on or these things?
Also, why would YOU want to make love with HIM when you KNOW he is sleeping with somebody else? How is he supposed to believe that he needs to give her up if you still act like you are ok with it? Crude as it is, there is just no way that you can win him back by out-[censored] her.
Ha Matt777 Im half way through your sitch! Thread 7! Looks like my current GAL is to go to our bedroom and read your sitch! I actually smilled at a couple things you wrote! Wish it was like fb I could just hit like! Zeus Im up for any help regarding todays situation.
Again, I'm honored. Hopefully there's something useful in there. I really need to go back and reread it someday soon.
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Matt777 Why... because I got caught up in the emotions of it all! I do not want to be the second best. I just do not know what to say when he initiates it. I have not talked to him much since we got home. He asked why i was limping around (my hip is killing me) i simply said my hip hurts. He has been in garage all night with his friend I have been in my room reading and kids watched a movie. He is still being the same! In fact I got pretty mad today when he told me he is not going to work thursday so he can go watch OW's kids show at fair. We are already behind on bill sby 150$ this month have not bought groceries or anything. I am so glad to see his responsibility remains no where around THIS family. I simply said "you know we really can not afford for you to not work thursday we are already behind!" he asked how we could make it when it was just me working and not him and now we both are we cant! I simply walked away but i really wanted to say because we are actually paying your mom for the house, we paid car insurance and licensing for the vehicles this month so an extra 800.00 went out! but Nope not worth a fight. I will not be able to reason with him he is in his own world right now where all that matters is the OW and their relationship. It is his reality! I am still trying to figure out how he can LOVE her so much and still have sex with me????? Any ideas on that????
I am still trying to figure out how he can LOVE her so much and still have sex with me????? Any ideas on that????
The way I understand it, sex itself is very different for men and women. There's some great posts by sandi out there that explain it better than I could ever dream to. But the way I understand it, women are really only able to really have that emotional connection with one man at a time no that's not really the same for men. Usually these posts are framed about WWs to LBHs. But I think the same thing applies here. You are emotionally connected to him and can't understand how he can want to be with anyone else. But it just doesn't work that way for men.
I can't say ever! Unfortunanly everytime it has been when things are rough we r fighting and on the verge of splitting anyways it's his way of splitting! By the time he cheats he isn't in love that's why I am confused? It makes me think he is not actually in love with her! It's been the same way when we have cheated together he is done with that relationship! I hope that makes sense to why I am asking
Wanted to share with my H but to meet my goal of NOT texting first the next 7 days I will share with you all! I woke up in a fabulous mood this is a huge accomplishment as its 645 am I have been awake 1 1/2 hours and am at work! I am NOT a morning person but feeling great! Two goals accomplished in one day feel better mood wise take my meds on time (did that also today) so far no TM! Good start
