WAW Filed for D the Next Day Part 12 (Bob)

[Bob723]

Hi Eirinn,

Thanks for asking, it was so much fun. What a "GAL" weekend I had.

Fri 7/17: "American English" concert (Beatles tribute band), dinner and then a little bar hopping.

Sat 7/18: Spent a good part of the day with my S who turned 24 yesterday.

Sun 7/9: BBQ with a lot of laughs and good food.

Boring...LOL

How are you, E?

Bob

[Elly4]

Sounds like an awesome weekend for you!

I'm doing ok, thanks for asking. Getting anxious again as I get closer to getting back to work, but I know it will work out. Just working on my goals and keeping my head down.

Interesting to note, that my H told me this morning that even though I think he will, he's not leaving come September. Not quite sure what to make of that. I thanked him for letting me know and went out to mow.

[u-turn]

Hi Bob,
Sounds like you had a good full weekend. I've seen A.E. a couple times - always fun.

Just wanted to say that you are in my thoughts
Take care

[Vanilla]

Great GAL Bob

V

[Painter]

Hi Bob,

This may seem completely out of the blue, but I read some of your threads and I wanted to comment on something, because I think it might give you an idea for a 180... I've been trying to find the right way to say this for a couple of days. And it may have come up before, I have not read all your threads!

I read some of your quoted communication with W and I think I perceived something of what W might feel. I went back to your earliest thread and saw that I was right on - you posted that she had complained about exactly that.

My thought was - if you can banish the notion of your W as a patient, as a woman with MS, and think of her only as a woman you are attracted to for x reasons, you might be able to change something in your interaction. Putting myself in her shoes, I would want a husband, not a caretaker. Yes, a husband should be supportive and caring, but if you get locked in the roles of patient and caretaker, it can become quite unbalanced.

I was talking to the priest at my church about it the other day - he and his wife of 23 years have just separated - and we broached on the issue that sometimes a very capable partner can make their partner feel incompetent or less, even when the intentions are the very best...

[Bob723]

Sounds like an awesome weekend for you!

Eirinn, it was! Thank you. I'm not sure what to make of your H's comments.

Hmmm....I have to think about this.

Hang in there.

{{E}}

[Bob723]

Just wanted to say that you are in my thoughts
Take care

Hi u-turn,

Thank you for keeping me in your thoughts! I haven’t been on the board much this past week or so, I’m sorry if it seems like a life-time ago that I checked in with you. I hope to later.

Take care.

Bob

[Bob723]

V, thank you!! I hope things are going better for you.

xx

Bob

[Bob723]

My thought was - if you can banish the notion of your W as a patient, as a woman with MS, and think of her only as a woman you are attracted to for x reasons, you might be able to change something in your interaction. Putting myself in her shoes, I would want a husband, not a caretaker. Yes, a husband should be supportive and caring, but if you get locked in the roles of patient and caretaker, it can become quite unbalanced.

Hey Painter,

First, I haven’t been on the board much this past week or so, I’m sorry if it seems like a life-time ago that I checked in with you. I hope to later. Bad Bob! LOL

Wow...just...wow. You are REALLY on to something here. I have to get back to work now, I had just enough time to get to a few people and noticed some posts in my thread.

I will think about this long and hard. Maybe my IC can help.

God bless you, Painter!

*Hugs*

Bob

[Painter]

Bob,

I'm glad you took this in such good spirit!

I actually don't have a thread of my own... I felt uncomfortable with it being on an open website because some of my circumstances are so very specific.

Take care!