Heading toward affair- what to do?

[Ontheup]

I thought you already had proof of a pa?

It makes little difference. Bottom line, he doesn't care and has no intention of working on the marriage. If he did he would be bending over backwards to work on it doing everything it takes to fix it. Basically years of hard work to win yiur trust back.

I can't advise regards the holiday only you know if you can hold it together. I had to live with my ex for nearly 2 months after I found out she was f@@cking someone else while she rubbed it in my face as I couldn't move into my rented accommodation. No doubt the lowest period of my life. Others have stuck around for a lot longer.
We all want to shelter our children. Bottom line you can live in an open marriage getting treated like a doormat and your kids will see this. Or you get ducks in a row, get support from your friends and family you lay down your boundaries with him and if he continues to disrespect you then you or him leave. Your kids will see this also and learn that you do not let people treat you like sh1t in life.
If he wants to restore the marriage he must be the one doing the hard work.
If he doesn't then let him go...why would you want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with you?