Sorry, 'troll'ing is a term that is often used to describe a person that tries to say $hit just to elicit a reaction or to rile someone up on bullitwn board / chat forums. They may not even believe what they are saying (sometimes they do because there are real nut cases out there but other times not). They are just trying to push buttons because they can.
Is is narcissistic behaviour, IDK. Could be. On the sports and hobby forums it is really frequent for trolls to come in and say dumb crap to start a fight. It is cowardly because they have anonymity. So it is best just to restrain and "don't feed the troll".
It is a little different since this person was your soul mate...it is not so easy to simply not take he bait (if it is intentional - which it very well be). In any event that is precisely what we must try to do...let those comment go.
I can try to tell my wife until I am blue in the face how she was totally wrong about the way she saw a specific event in our lives (especially when she has rewritten the way it went down) but what us the point. If I am right and I have to prove that, am I not inserting a wedge between us...making it harder for a future or justifying me keeping the score. The only way I can decouple my emotions from these sort of conflicts is to validate how she feels and let it go. Keeping score is just another way if holding onto resentment which holds us back from clearing out our heart and being able to love freely.
I am sure that there are other opinions on this topic, but I believe that on a fundamental level, resentment is why most all of us are here.
