A new thread - My W's OW, the Predator

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Thanks for your support, Heavy. You know I'm rooting for you, too.

At my mom's this morning, enjoying peaceful coffee on the back porch. Had the chance last night to tell her everything that's going on, and I can see her heart is broken... for my pain, and for my W, who is her goddaughter. She said, and I think this is true, that if W and I get some space and distance from each other, then my mom will be able to take up a more proactive role as her godmother - encouraging her in her faith, without my involvement at all. W respects my mom greatly, and perhaps this, combined with all our prayers, will help eventually soften her heart and lead her back to her faith. My saintly mother is insistent that God won't fail her, and she'll come back. True or not, it's nice to hear.

In any case, unless some crazy new development pops up this week, I'm taking a break from my W (seeing her, talking to her, thinking about her even - except in my prayers) and from this board. Kind of a "cold turkey" sort of detachment process as I spend this week at my friend's house. It's true that too much of my energy has been going toward trying to figure her out, looking for signs of hope, etc. But as Cali has put it, I've planted good seeds, and now, I just need to step back and let them grow, while focusing on myself and where I'm headed in my own life. I hope to come back here with a better perspective, a strong PMA, and a workable plan - and so that I can also be a better support to everyone else here.

Have a good week folks... you are all in my thoughts and prayers.