Defacto, I have the same issue. W being do nice to me the last few months which is a completely different attitude from BD. I know part of it putting no pressure on her and leaving the her to her own path. Another part wonders what else may be the cause of it. Shes still completely consumed in the A also, so who knows.
Fogg, I think it's fairly common for a WW to act nice and wanna be "friends" with her H. Mine tried taking it to the extreme initially. It was almost as if overnight we went from being a married couple to being BFFs. She was friendly and all smiles, wanted to talk on the phone, hang out as a family, even tried talking about OM at times, although I always put a stop to that. I finally realized that it was total cake eating and I had been putting up with it to be close to her, and thinking that being friends was an open door into rebuilding our M. After reading enough online, getting plenty of advice from family, and realizing that she was totally head over heels in love with OM, I pulled the plug on the whole friendship idea and have went almost totally dark on her. Not sure if she's feeling any impact but it is helping me to detach.
In Defacto's case though, there seems to be some mixed messages coming and it definitely sounds like his W is confused about what she wants. I still think there is a good chance of reconciling based on reading through the entire thread. Hang in there brother.
Me 47 W 42 T 24 yrs M 18 yrs W living with OM BD1: 3/7/2015 (A with OM#1) BD2: 4/11/2015 (A with OM#2, W moves out) WW filed for D, papers received 9/18/2015. Meeting to determine child custody 9/29/2015.
