Recovery from cancer and separation

[shotgun]

Thank you Cadet. I've been trying to DB for over a year with a seven month respite while battling this illness. I struggled early on as W kept changing her story and keeping me off balance. In early November she informed me that we had worked things out and she was committed to the R. I know don't believe anything they say.......... By December I was fighting cancer. I have very few memories of that time period (kind of a blessing) but do have a few memories of some very abusive behavior by W. It's probably much too late to save this marriage but I am definitely feeling better about myself and my 180's have made me much more independent. I'll never allow myself to become dependent on my wife or anyone else in the future. The toughest thing for me now is to drop the rope although it is beginning to feel appropriate to make that call to my attorney to file for dissolution.