I think you are right on the anti-depressives, as my doctor did mention to keep taking them every day. I just hate depending on medication, when I feel that most days I do fine without.
I'm NOT a doctor or in the medical field.
But my guess is that you feel better because you started taking the medicine a few days before. I think starting and stopping is probably worse than just being on it. There's no shame in getting help.
Originally Posted By: dwh15
I have a general question about how long do people generally take to start moving towards a R in the M? I realize that every sitch is different, but when do you know that enough time has passed and it's time to move on? My WW left 4 months ago so it's still very early for me. Everyone is pushing me to file for D, but I'm simply not ready. Now my WW may file herself and I'll be ready to defend myself if necessary in regards to child custody, but she doesn't seem in any hurry so far. Right now, I'm thinking I give it until around next April, which will a year of separation. If things haven't started to move in another direction by then, I don't see that they ever will. I mean, you can't wait around forever, right? My other concern is that in this state, once you pass 20 years of M, the courts start to consider permanent spousal support and I just crossed 18 years. It takes min 6 months from filing to finalize. So I definitely don't want to end up in that situation, paying support the rest of my life because I waited a few months too long, especially when the last 2 years of the M was separated. Anyway, just curious if people had a general idea of when to throw in the towel.
there is no set timeline for these. Sometimes,it's a month, sometimes it's years. Sometimes, it's never. There are no guarantees here except that if you put in the work, you will emerge from the other side of this a better person.
As for throwing in the towel, that's on you to decide. You can always file yourself if you feel it's time. Sometimes, it's the only way to move forward. But also, remember that divorce is just a piece of paper - it just changes your tax status. You still have the same problems to deal with in regards to you and your R with WW.
