Some posters have in the past suggested that she move out. While she's still preoccupied with OM, she's not in an active A. Her parenting is not an issue to me. My Ds would be just fine with her. I'm the one who's wanting to move on at this point. I can't tell where she is, really.
I think insisting on her leaving the children with me in this case is overkill.
Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
