Ha I can't imagine financially independence! I have my nursing degree just never took my boards. It is not what I want to do but I could do it for a while! It costs 400$ to take each time I don't pass and I don't have that right now and I need to study I have been out about 4 years! I have considered a second job but my days off right now I pick up and drop off his daughter have kids in school and their activities those days and I work every other weekend the weekend im off we have all the kids! Maybe I can find something im off by 2-3! I will have to stay strong and tell him the extra paycheck is mine because I'm working the extra job! I'm not sure who I live my life for probably keeping him happy and being a door mat! I will have to look closer at that! My MIL studies Buddhism and it sounds interesting but I'm baptized Lutheran! My kids are always beging to go to church so maybe we will start doing that! I will stop over and read your post on the other thread! I am also considering buying co dependency more and the workbook! One step at a time right! I NEED to do this in order to have any healthy relationship! I need to look truly at my fears! Thanks Zeus you are great!