Need advice for a WW who left

[dwh15]

I do have a script for anti-depressives from my doctor but don't take them regularly. Some days I feel fine and others is more of a struggle

Well, I'm not a physician, but I don't think you take them on a "as needed" regiment. They have to have time to get into your system and stay in your system to be effective.

About the dating or communicating with other women, that is a personal choice. However, being in a vulnerable state, it would be easy for you to find yourself in an EA.......or even a PA, as it's been known to happen with others. That would definitely rough the road back home. So, be careful out there.

I think you are right on the anti-depressives, as my doctor did mention to keep taking them every day. I just hate depending on medication, when I feel that most days I do fine without.

The dating thing was def a bad idea, at least in my case. I caved in a few moments of weakness, but fortunately didn't let it get too far. Not only would it break my own vows and every moral/ethical boundary I hold dear, but I am in no mental state to be able to commit to anyone but my W right now. And I don't want to leave a trail of broken hearts behind me. I've barely had contact with that woman in 2 days and I think she gets it. If she persists, I'll simply tell her the truth that I jumped in way too soon to the dating world and am not ready yet.

I have a general question about how long do people generally take to start moving towards a R in the M? I realize that every sitch is different, but when do you know that enough time has passed and it's time to move on? My WW left 4 months ago so it's still very early for me. Everyone is pushing me to file for D, but I'm simply not ready. Now my WW may file herself and I'll be ready to defend myself if necessary in regards to child custody, but she doesn't seem in any hurry so far. Right now, I'm thinking I give it until around next April, which will a year of separation. If things haven't started to move in another direction by then, I don't see that they ever will. I mean, you can't wait around forever, right? My other concern is that in this state, once you pass 20 years of M, the courts start to consider permanent spousal support and I just crossed 18 years. It takes min 6 months from filing to finalize. So I definitely don't want to end up in that situation, paying support the rest of my life because I waited a few months too long, especially when the last 2 years of the M was separated. Anyway, just curious if people had a general idea of when to throw in the towel.