Thanks everyone for your helping me to see the obvious problems with moving back in with W.
Here is a bit more background on why I am considering the possibility of moving in with W:
- S13 is making friends at his current school, and it would be nice to keep him at this school. I live in a different city;
- W likely will be unable to stay at her condo b/c she cannot afford it, which means s13 might have to move out of his school district;
- I was told yesterday (by d18) that D20 who lives with me now, is considering moving out and finding her own place;
- I doubt W will EVER admit she has done anything wrong. It's just her personality, and this is not a deal-breaker for me.
A couple of other things make think that moving in with W is something to pursue. I have a 1 year extension on my apartment but the landlord never sent over the lease for me to sign. And W started this by inviting me over to her place to recover after the surgery I had on July 1st. I would stay in the 3rd br, and W has her own br.
But I understand W is still a mess. She is depressed (when she mentioned she was going thru menopause, I asked her if she was ready for her next "season of life" and she looked at d18 and said "no, b/c the rest of my life has been so miserable.")
And most importantly, things have not changed on the most important reason why W left me - I still do not have a steady paycheck coming in.
I think that the chances of reconciliation are better if we are living in the same place. It also seems W's OM has moved on after his heart-attack. I checked by doing a search of the dating sites and it seems W is "only" on one dating site. Not even the free dating site is coming up. So perhaps now is the time to shake things up by seeing if she is willing to live separately in the same condo.
And Life Twists, I would have to have a boundary of neither of us bringing other people back to the condo. This would be a deal-breaker.
