I'm sorry you are here and having such a difficult time. How are you dealing with your depression? Are you seeing an IC? As you read the books and the link about detachment, a key component will be that you know you will be okay with or without your W. Given your comments about your emotional state and that you write this is your first real love, an IC really would be helpful in giving you the tools to handle what has happened and to get you to a healthy you.
And you will question the idea of detaching. Won’t that mean W will think Soeren has moved on? It really is about getting Soeren healthy. And from what you write, W knows you want to R. How has that worked out?
You wrote you’ll do anything for a shot. Start by taking the focus off of W and place it on getting Soeren healthy and detached. This is the first step in a very long journey. And right now, it is the only, and most important step.
me: 45 W:45 M 20 years T 22 years S14, S13, S11, D9 BD 2/28/14 D papers served 3/3/14 I moved out 3/15/14 MC start 4/2/14 I moved in 6/2/14 D suit withdrawn 6/30/14
