My exhausting life part 3

[Matt777]

In my opinion, you can say whatever you want.
But I think it's more effective to show her that she doesn't "win" by getting a divorce.

[Kembo05]

I've thought about that Matt. I'm just not sure how to "show" that. She has just told several mutual friends that she feels like I win if she decided to go back on the divorce.

I've kind of had a winners mentality with arguments in the past, but we don't really argue, or talk, anymore.

[Matt777]

All you can do is BE the better choice. I'm guessing that anything you say in the emotionally charged environment of deciding to sell your home is going to go in one ear and out the other.

[Kembo05]

I'm guessing that anything you say in the emotionally charged environment of deciding to sell your home is going to go in one ear and out the other.

That is actually a great point. Gah it gets so exhausting worrying and wondering about every little thing...

[Kembo05]

Hello, all, its been a while since I have posted anything. Just wanted to send a quick update. Temporary order was 7-15 and we sorted out the custody, we worked out a 50/50 custody and I couldn't be more relieved. W had until Aug 1 to move out of the house but she hired movers and got all of her stuff yesterday. I was definitely shocked when I came home and noticed how much she took. I was initially very angry that she took some of the stuff without us working anything out. I was furious for about an hour and then I realized it's all just stuff. W has tried so hard to get me upset or to bait me and I just keep rising above that. She took a lot of our D2 stuff, which is sad because she didn't realize when D2 is at the house with me she will have nothing of hers there. But I look forward to going to pick out new stuff with D2. I will get her a bed today and we will go pick out sheets on Wednesday, im sure it will be Frozen themed sheets.

I'm sad this is where W and I are at, but every interaction I have with W right now shows me she isn't anywhere near ready to work on our marriage, and she may never be. I just feel sorry for her that she has this picture painted of the situation that isn't true, and the once loving and kind person I knew is gone and she's angry, bitter, and so cold now.

I am doing good, I have my ups and downs, but more ups than downs lately. I have really taken on camping and outdoors stuff for my GAL. I have always done these things randomly before, but I definitely have more time now. I camped at pikes peak a couple weeks ago and already have a trip planned to yosemite in september. I couldn't be looking more forward to this trip. Onward and upward right?

[Cadet]

Now change the locks.

[Kembo05]

I thought about that cadet, unfortunately we are selling the house and she is a realtor so she has to have access to the house. I was thinking about getting a storage unit this weekend and taking all the stuff I for sure don't want her to take and putting it in the storage unit.

I was amazed at her pettiness and condescending tone when I politely asked her about some of the stuff she took. Again, her attitude is like im the one who had the affair.

She asked me earlier in the week if I wanted half of the dishes and I said yes. So her solution was to take all of the dishes, buy me a cheap dish set, and then tell me by doing that she won't take half of my gun collection. Ooooooo...the self control I've established through this storm.

[Matt777]

Kembo -
There's an article out there about some guy that band sawed every single item they owned so that his W could have exactly half. Cars, TV, teddy bears. Everything. I don't recommend it, but.........

Anyway, keep strong, bud.

[Cadet]

I was amazed at her pettiness and condescending tone when I politely asked her about some of the stuff she took. Again, her attitude is like im the one who had the affair.

Yes obviously that was a waste of breath,
their sense of entitlement grows the longer this goes on.

And the person that has the affair has nothing to do with the laws in most jurisdicitions.

Too bad about her being a realtor.

YES - safeguard everything.

[Kembo05]

Thanks guys, im doing OK. It makes me sad still but I have completely accepted the fact in knowing I can only take care of me and D2. Cadet, you nailed it about the sense of entitlement.

Matt, I LOVE that idea

It's still so bizarre how illogical everything is. I've just always been so logical about everything and this situation defies all laws of logic. I tell my friends they couldn't even make a movie about this situation because it is too unrealistic