Falling Pianos: Wayward Wife & LRT (8)

[Defacto]

I'm really starting to wonder if I shouldn't just take the D that she's offering now because it seems completely fair (joint custody, no child support, no alimony). Dragging it out will cost me more and I might get less in the end.

Defacto, I think you are one of the better DBers around. I just wanted you to know that. FWIW, I think you will ultimately be successful. Your WW talks so lovingly to you. Not like the usual temp checking. Even if you do D, don't you think she will come around?

Also FWIW, joint custody, no child support, no alimony sounds like a great deal. I would snatch it up in a second.

RAI

RAI,
Thanks for the encouragement. It doesn't always seem that I am doing a good job DB'ing.

Part of me has a hard time understanding why STBX can be so nice to me but still want to D. Maybe she's just so far removed from R that the friend zone seems natural to her. When we D, I don't know how much longer I will wait around for STBX. I guess I'll just have to wait and see.

I'm not a lawyer

However, I would take whatever you think is best for you and the kids. So, if you think this offer is great, I wouldn't let you hoping for R get in the way of taking it. Yes you may R but you also may not and the terms of the D will stick by you and your children. If she's being friendly and willing to be amicable I personally would take it. As many say divorce is a piece of paper.. You two haven't been living the married life for awhile now.

And I apologize if I'm coming off harsh I just wouldn't want you to pass up a good setup for D over the hopes of R. I would hate for you to wait and things turn nasty and you end up having to fight tooth and nail for custody, etc.

Hope this makes sense

Oh and time to pull back if she's pushing D again but I'm sure you already knew I was going to say that

T0,

Yeah, that's kind of where I'm at right now. Is it wise for me to look a gift horse in the mouth right now? I'm not sure a drawn out, contested D is really going to help anything right now.

Journaling:
FaceTimed with kids and STBX last night. I was outside a local brewery talking with the kids and STBX asked where I was. I told I was out getting ready to watch a friend play a music gig. I find it odd that she still wants to know what I am up to.

This morning, STBX dropped off the kids (and the puppy!) at my place. She greeted me with a long embrace. I returned the embrace. She also commented on how she liked my shoes. We all went inside for a few minutes and talked casually about kid stuff. Then, STBX said goodbye and gave hugs to kids. She then turned to me and gave me a hug but this time I kept it brief on my end.

She didn't mention anything about where she was going this weekend and I definitely wasn't going to ask.

GAL update...
Enjoyed some friends playing some cover songs last night. Just an all around good time last night. Tonight, the kids and I will be spending the night with my best friend's family.