Heading toward affair- what to do?

[Ontheup]

As far as i'm aware anywhere if its a joint account and he just empties it then if/when you go to court that will be brought up and yes not looked on favourably at all.

If you're that worried then why don't you withdraw your half?

No, none of this is easy and I can only give you my experience. Others on here will no doubt say different.
All I can promise you is that it will get easier depending on what you do. the longer you do the dance the longer you will be in pain.
I relatively quickly decided I wasn't go to beg, plead, dance any longer and moved on. If my ex wanted me then she would bend over backwards to get me back. She never made one move other than some bulssh1t talk about reconciliation and seeing a councillor once. That right there told me all I needed to know. She didn't give a sh1t anymore.
It was the hardest thing I have ever had to do but over time It has worked out to be the best thing I've done.
You will gain back your self respect and dignity and realise there is more to this world than being treated like a door mat.

I've not been on here for many months but ill check in over the next few days and see how you are getting on.