Heading toward affair- what to do?

[Ontheup]

Hope

I'm a bit more cynical than many on these boards. I've read over your story and you seemed a pretty strong willed woman

My opinion , get all your ducks in a row, make sure you've taken legal advice,
If you still want to try and resolve the marriage then set out the boundaries you said in your earlier post. Break off all contact with ow, he must be completely transparent and do anything you require to restore trust and fix the marriage.
If he is not willing do even one little thing then you have your answer at which point I would dump his sorry ass and move out or get him to move out.
These self entitled dicks will keep you dancing for as long as you keep dancing. They love having their ego stroked....ohh how amazing am I ....2 women fighting over me. ...F@@k that , Just stop doing the dance and take your life back.