Polyanna why be in a relationship if not 100% commited? Based on yout initial post your ex left because you had an afair. Sounds to me that you can not commit and be faithful.
Yes you do need counseling. Try it might help
M 53 D 20 Separated 6/22/11 moved out 10/24 Together 26 yrs Married 16 W Filed for D 7/21/11 Served 9/6/11 D final 8/28/12
“Failure is not fatal, but failure to change might be.”
