Happy for you NDY. I know exactly the feeling you're talking about. I remember a few months ago when my D said something about OM (OM #4 or 5 I believe but I might be missing a few)...for just a split second I was like "oh no we're not together anymore!" but then I was like, "oh wait, I already knew that and don't care". And since then it's been much less still.
As for you Mr. Pyrite...there will come a point when you don't even care about her coming out of the fog. It's funny, HPoirot's posts blew up because so many people are so eager for the WAS to come crawling back and realize they were wrong, and for the tables to turn, etc. Fair enough. It's a natural desire. For me, I just don't care anymore. She can do what she wants, view things how she wants, whatever. I'm confident enough in who I am and what I'm doing I don't need her validation, I'm straightening out my life and she isn't doing the same so I'm walking away, and I'm happy that I'm out of that dysfunction. Of course I don't want her to suffer, but we all suffer, and we all reap what we sew. She chose her path and she'll do the best she can, just like I will. My point is that the day will come when you not only let her go, you won't care about rewriting history and stuff like that anymore either.
Later!
Me:38 XW:38 T:11 years M:8 years Kids: S14, D11, D7 BD/Move out day: 6/17/14, D final Dec 15
