I like your list a lot. Maybe one way to track your progress will be to write down some examples of these, when you do them.
Like 'played her favorite high school song when she was doing X" or "got her car's oil changed while she was at work", or whatever the act of service she likes are, etc
This is not a scorecard for you to ever use against her or to "win" anything, other than the regaining of your self respect. It's for you to mark your progress and to know you are staying on track.
If she says she feels pressured to change her mind, you can tell her that
"If I had it all to do over again, there are lots of things I'd do differently, and of course, at some level I wish you could see that. But I'm not changing 'for you', but for me. And I actually want to thank you for the wake up call b/c my changes are making ME happier - and that's a real victory. So thank you"
and then be about your business. No pressure and NO Expectation or waiting for a reply,
but then again, making sure she knows you are not the man she was leaving, anymore.
Make sense?
Last edited by 25yearsmlc; 07/17/1509:29 PM.
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