The charm thing is good, I was generally kind, interested, and loving towards my w these last 3 months because that is who I really am , but I think the expectation of r is what came across to my w , and she thinks I did it to win her over. I realize that and so am going to keep that in mind, but I will still be loving toward her.
Lots of testing & temp checking, she wants to see that I have moved on otherwise if she did come back it would be the same old behavior. She is changing, and in a good way.
I read about it taking a month for every year you were together, and I see why. We were together 27 yrs, married 17, and it took me 9 months just to start to feel comfortable. Things are starting to make more sense to me, I am starting to feel happy with who I am, to be less afraid to be me.
Me:47 W:47 D:12 T:27yrs. M:17yrs. S:10/14 Wife wants legal sep., which can be divorce after 1 yr. om b 7/15 but probably a lot longer
