WAW Affair admittd 3

[Ontheup]

Hi all

It's a long time since I've posted and seems a million years ago since those
Very dark first few weeks when this board gave me such a huge amount of support.
I thought I'd check in and just let those who cared at the time know where I'm up to.
I'm happily living on my own and getting on with my own life. I take care of my daughter 50% of the time and we have more fun and better quality than we ever did do.
I'm more outgoing , more confident and generally an all round happier better person than I was the last few years with my ex.
I've met some great people since being single due to me being much more outgoing and confident and yes some of these are women.
The time spent thinking about my situation has become less and less to the point where I will go for majority of the day without even thinking about my ex. Hard to believe as when I found out it consumed my every thought.
Ok So it's not great all the time, I'm still in counselling working through my problems and have suffered some medical problems due to what happened. These though are getting better each day and the counselling helps hugely with me helping to take my life back and realise that this is not my fault and nothing I did could and would ever have prevented what my ex did. Anyone who tries to pin one bit of blame on you for them having an affair ....smack them upside the head.
I still from time to time will feel very guilty about my daughter. She never asked for any of this and although she has up to now dealt amazingly well with it i can't stop the waves of guilt that will wash over me. Her birthday was last week and this for me was particularly difficult.

I have very little contact with my ex no contact for me was by far the best thing I ever did. I stopped the dance and decided to live for myself. We talk about my daughter and financial matters but that's it. I have no idea if she is still with OM , I presume she is. I'm past caring.

I didn't really follow Db in the end and veered off towards leaving a cheater and gaining my life back ( yiu know the site)
For me this has worked and set me on the road to meh.

I still sometimes miss my old life but that life ended years ago. I was just holding onto a memory of something I used to have.

There will no doubt be tough times ahead but I feel much better equipped to deal with anything thrown at.

Good luck to everyone out there

Know there is light at the end of the tunnel whatever form that light comes is