FIDO - Changing The Rules - Pt 2

[NH115]

I found a letter my wife wrote to OM today. She accidentally left it up on the computer, apparently from last night. The therapist had suggested she write a letter to me (that I would never read), getting out all the anger and bitterness onto paper, no holds barred. She also wrote one to OM, again without the intent to actually send it.

It wasn't exactly a love letter, but it wasn't exactly the letter of someone who is over their AP.

I'd rather not publish the whole thing here, but a couple of lines stood out....

"Why did you want to see me when you came back into town?"

"I can tell when a guy is just not that into me. If you were interested in ME, I would hear from you, you would want to know things about me" (mind you, in December she TOLD him to go back home and work on his marriage)

"Although I am a happy person, I am not happy in my marriage. My husband is a good man, and I love him, but I am not in love with him. A lot has happened throughout our marriage which has done immense damage to our connection. We're working on it, but I think too much has happened and too much time has gone by".

I wasn't particularly hurt by any of the things she said, because of my level of detachment, and the fact that she's said most of them to my face. She seems convinced that we can't make it, but every time I say that maybe it's time to move on, she gets mad and says I'm giving up.

Not sure why I posted that, other to vent, but feedback is always welcome.

I'm working on a concise way to explain my position on moving out in therapy next week. When I said I wanted to move out last week, the MC didn't ask me much about it, strangely enough. My basic position is this:

"I need space to figure out where my life is going and whether being married to W fits anymore."

This isn't about seeing if she misses me, or not being willing to be in an open relationship while she is still preoccupied with OM, this is about being able to point life in the direction I want it to go.

Am I close? Is there anything I should add?