Ghost, this is a process. you HAVE to focus on your side of it thought. You will learn that you have all the control you need, control over yourself and your happiness. You will find that you control how good of a father you can really be IF you do the work and become one. You will find that you have control over your career, your interactions with everyone around you (including your wife). Lastly you ultimately control how you move forward.
Are you clingy and needy right now. ya, I get that. you will feel anxious and needy and lonely, it will happen. you don't want to lose your wife...ok. she is past that RIGHT NOW. NOTHING YOU DO CAN CHANGE THAT - RIGHT NOW.
turning yourself into a better man, father and ultimately the better choice is what you need to work on. She may not chose you, and sometimes they don't, but you will be the better choice...and that you will be able to live with forever, knowing you did everything within your power to do.
It starts today. Saving yourself - transitioning into a better man starts with one foot forward. Go back to Cadet's homework list and read that [censored] again...then reread it. there is so much info in there that a once or twice through will not do it all justice.
