Heading toward affair- what to do?

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Hmm - tempting just to reply.....'You're welcome! '

Seriously though - I wouldn't bother replying to that one. I think he's just trying to bait you. And if he asks you can reply along similar lines to last night and reinforce the message. You don't feel like ML when says he isn't invested in your M..

As for the guns, I don't think it's pursuit to accept invitations. Just don't accept every one and don't overly enthuse when accepting. Hopefully your own life is busy enough with GAL that you aren't always available....you're a gal who is GAL for yourself right? If you do accept, don't overthink your response - just go with cool and casual...

I was thinking of tonight following up on the email in person (I have decided to not respond to emails that have to do with our relationship but to discuss in person if he sends an email... He prefers to throw up on me via email & I have been baited into arguments that way. So no longer going to do that.). I was thinking of saying- I have to set up boundaries for myself so that I protect myself from hurt. And then maybe saying what Starsky suggested about the secrecy & lack of transparency he is showing indicates to me that either something is going on affair-wise or he that he wants to be able to do something if he so desires. So I have had to proceed with my decision making accordingly.

And on the shooting thing- he did not invite me. Just told me he is going w/ a co-worker (see what he did? Making it mysterious so I'll wonder if it is the OW or not... She is a co-worker). He offered to test out my gun while he was there. So thinking about what my response will be to that.