I agree with Starsky! I think you should treat yourself to a nice new bed. If you're going to be in the spare room, you might as well be comfortable.

Just FYI, NH115 is getting to the point where he is going to leave - and no longer waiting around in the hope his W may come around. You may find it helpful to read his recent posts.

Also, in practice - what is your plan if your W isn't interested in working on the M. Is she going to move out? Are you going to move on/out? I think it is worth having your own vision of the life you want for yourself if she decides she isn't coming along for the ride.

Good luck with things x

Last edited by Toots; 07/17/15 02:31 PM.
T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus