Heading toward affair- what to do?

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Hope, good for you, sticking to your guns. I just read your post on NH's thread in newcomers too. I get the fear - I'm sure most of us do...

I read a great little line recently, and can I find it to post to you?? It was about WAS's who talk to LBH's about 'waiting' for them - as my H did to me. Could I wait while he decided what he wanted to do? (and conducted an A?)

THe line went something like this....I have no intention of putting my life on hold, while you conduct a R with someone else. That doesn't work for me, and I'll be moving forward with my own life - with or without you. You're an adult and you'll decide what you want to do. I can only tell you what I'm going to do if this A continues..

It was something along those lines and it may have been Starsky who posted it - but I'm not sure. I said something similar to my H - but that line sounded so much better!

Thank you for this. I don't know if he thinks I am just waiting on him? Or if he is just wanting to cake eat. But clearly he is not wanting any of the responsibilities of being a husband other than providing financially.