Continuing to settle in to the new place. Love it here...
We have started our rotation schedule with the kids and this is taking a lot of adjustment... Not sure if their behaviors are because of the adjustment, because of way too much time with grandparents in June, because of some homesickness, or combination of all of the above -- probably a big combination... But I have noticed that the longer they are around me (or around exW) the better the behavior becomes. In other words, right when I get them from their grandmother the behavior is off the wall but after a few days they settle down a bit -- especially after we've had some time to do some one-on-one time and talk to one another... Behavior is not quite so off the wall when I get them directly from exW.
ExW seems to be communicating with me much better. Not as friendly as I hope we will eventually become, but so much better than before I moved out. OW is very much still in the picture and I am certain that the wedding plans are still on.
Have recently had some interesting conversations with various friends and family members -- and all say they are still on "Team Jer" and that they have told my exW this. I know that will probably slow down the process of exW and I developing a friendly relationship because I am sure she is not happy that they are on my side in all of this... But it is what it is, and all of it is a result of her MLC and the choices she made as a result.
As for me -- new job still going incredibly great! Also getting out now with various friends on the weekends when I don't have the kids... and getting asked out by a few different people as the word spreads that I am single again (the news didn't really break among the wider circle of friends and acquaintances until I moved out)... So I am taking people up on the dates, but making it very clear that I am not looking for anything serious right now and just looking to get out and have fun with friends... But remaining open to getting to know people better and being completely honest about what I am going through in terms of processing everything that has happened over the past year - year and a half. Even got an invite to church with a guy that I work with - no worries, he's straight and knows that I'm not, so even though he is also recently divorced the invitation was strictly on the friendship level and I am taking him up on the invite this weekend. For the most part, all of this is a lot of fun and it helps that the people who have asked me out recently completely understand where I am with everything and are okay with just hanging out as friends and enjoying each other's company at that level. But I must admit that it is nice to see the level of interest once the news started to spread -- especially from people who do already know me... It means that regardless of the spew that came from exW over the past several months, I am not the horrible person she has made me out to be and a lot of other people recognize that and find me attractive on many different levels (not just physically). This has been an ego-boost that I didn't even know I needed until it started to happen (when the date invites started to happen).
I am off work today and get to spend the day with the kiddos -- so time for me to log off and get in some valuable quality time with them.
Life is good...
Me 48, Her 50 (Same-Sex Couple) 3 Children Together: 9.5 years before BD BD: Week of 10/27/14 ExW started EA w OW 9/2014 ExW married OW 12/2015
