I didn't mean to sound dismissive. I just meant that it is a circle. My emotional needs weren't being met so I withheld relations and his sexual needs weren't being met so he detached emotionally. I know I have to be the one to stop this circle. I have really screwed up. How do I fix it now? I watched the you tube video by Michele Weiner Davis about sex starved marriage. Very eye opening. I didn't realize he felt so unloved. Wish I would have known how he felt years ago. To make changes before it got to this point.
I don't know if I should try and initiate relations or try to be more affectionate now or if he will feel that I am not being genuine.
