XW's fog lifting, wants to work on fixing us

[gogofo]

One other thing that I remember from the conversation was I said I want commitment to us, and only us. She said that she doesn't know any other way than to be fully committed, which is true. She will make a plan and usually see through its completion. Unfortunately this is how the D came about. She said she didn't see it as the end of us, but the end of a bad relationship. When I went dark it showed that I was not there after a D. I did not give her any cake to eat, I was just throwing shade.

I noticed a shift in her attitude a month or more ago and she confirmed it with me that she started to see that her life had not changed much at all and she was still hurting, even more so with me gone.

I believe if I was her friend after the D that she would not be second guessing the D; she would of had me to play family with to satisfy that need with no strings attached and be free to do what she wanted.

Thank you everyone on the board for advising me to not be her friend. It is the correct move. I even told her that I do not want to be her friend, I never did. This is the first time she ever felt like she lost me. I did truly drop the rope after the D. I never took the bait she through out after the D. She came at me for the talk. I even made her ask me to talk when she came inside that night intending to talk with me. That is the most action she has put forth. Any time before it would be me answering her when she asked "why should I not D you" or "why was I never worth it before". I made distance and now she is choosing to come to me.