Good to see you around. Obviously, your XW is being manipulative and trying to get you where she wants you. At an armslenghth. Not too close, yet not too far away.
What she says means nothing, until her actions align with her words. Here's my suggestion on a response.
XW,
I have put a lot of thought into your emails about our situation. First, I have put forth the effort to work on myself and will continue to do so. My life is heading in a positive direction, which I have learned to enjoy. Communicating about S12 through email works best for me. If I were to consider working on re-building a relationship with you, it would have to be without any outside influence. Otherwise, it simply doesn't work for me. Hope this makes sense.
HP
Anyway, welcome back. You got this.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa