Well.... -she says I never made her feel good enough for me. -she says she never felt like a team financially. -she says that I never supported her decisions. -she says I stopped seeing her -she says I never wanted to do fun stuff
These are only partially rooted in truth.
What I feel I contributed...I was very passive about sex, I didn't initiate it enough. I was angry about our situation alot of the time and could be very judgemental. I didnt make her feel special to me...although she was, I didn't show it as much as she needed. I didnt take care of myself as well as i could have. I was always concerned about money. She was always afraid to talk to me about her concerns or worries. I would freak out whenever there was an issue...not abusively but I would get upset. I always gave her a hard time about her behavior. Tried to change her in a lot of ways. I just wouldnt let her be herself.
Just reading through all of this, and this line stood out to me. This isnt PARTIALLY truth. This is her perception, therefore it is her REALITY. It doesnt matter if you ACTUALLY did those things. If she believed that you did those things, then to her, you did them. So, think about how you may have come across to HER, even if you didnt intend it.
