Alright, here's my take. In looking at your list, there are three main things I saw:
1) Things focused on you feel: mood swings, being negative, being tired, complaining, angry/fighting Have you watched the TED talks by Shawn Achor and Amy Cuddy on happiness? They are so great. i recommend to do this.
I think your focus in resolving some of these things is to really work on your PMA. How can you keep a positive attitude all the time so that you dont complain? How can you get your energy level up - do you go to the gym? go for a run? take a walk or a bike ride with your kid(s)?
2) How you treat yourself - take on everything, refuse to ask for help, don’t stand up for yourself, don’t stick to changes, don’t treat yourself to things. In this area, you really need to work on getting your own life. Een if money is tight, there are some inexpensive things that you can do that will make you feel good and feel accomplished. Are there household projects you want to do? Can you can a new book from the library? Can you take the kids to the park? Do you have friends to go out with? Are there meetups in your area to meet new friends? Id get some schedule prepared so that you can have 1 or 2 nights a week to go out by yourself.
3) How you treat others – not supportive, not able to forgive, not trusting, emotionally abusive, degrading, controlling, needy, keep score. This one you are going to have to dig deep within yourself. How do you want to treat other people? Im hoping that once you see changes from 1 and 2 above, that you can work on some of these points. You dont want to be especially loving and doting on your boyfriend right now. but you can start to do these kinds of things for your kids and your friends and your coworkers. that will help you instill those skills into yourself for when it comes time to do that with your boyfriend.
OK, theres some ideas. Now, what do you want to set as GOALS?
