He says it is loveless b/c I haven't been very affectionate and we have gone long stretches w/o intimacy or less intimacy. I have improved upon this but now he doesn't act like he wants me anymore.
I believe he has a connection if not a EA with the woman at work. She is his secretary so he sees her everyday. I don't have access to his phone or his phone records. They are in his name only. I haven't seen any cash withdrawals that are suspicious or large. He works late but always calls me from work before he leaves. She can't work late as she has to pick up her daughter from daycare before it closes at 6:00. I know they banter back and forth and he seems to know a lot about her. But even if he is having an affair does that change the way I should act? An affair would be hard to catch.
I will stop doing his laundry and just cook dinner for myself and kids since he gets home later. I have always done that for him so it will be tough but I will do it.
Should I invite him on vacation? Should I tell him about it now or later? Myself and the kids are leaving in 2 weeks for a weekend trip.
