Hey tad, long time poster, new account, but I'm probably on moderation because I don't really post. I hope this gets to you before happy hour....


It really strikes me when you tell me how social and outgoing you WERE. You definitely don't have aspbergers. Everything seems to have changed though. And it seems to have changed after your divorce. Divorce and affairs obviously are a HUGE blow to our self esteem and self worth. You need to know that social, confident guy you were? That was all YOU and had nothing to do with your ex. And the way people receive you? Also has nothing to do with her because what happened does not dictate you are. You are still that guy who used to be life of the party.

I think there is a huge component of depression here and it worries me. a lot. And your refusal to get help worries me. There is no reason you need to be living like this. There is a great fulfilling life with other human waiting out there for you! But it's in your power to get the help you need to make that happen.

All this " I really HOPEI can make it to happy hour". And " I will TRY to make it to happy hour" Needs to be " I WILL make it happy hour". Learned this from a book I'm reading by ... and saying I will or I can actually makes stuff happen:)

We are all rooting for you. Especially since we know you can do it

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