What do I do now

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Sadie,

Sorry that you find yourself here. As PP said, you are in great company with good people. Definitely sounds similar to my H and, yes, I think my H is MLC. That being said, my H has some very valid reasons to be unhappy in our M.

Can you tell us more about your M and any specifics that your H has given for why he thinks your M is loveless? We all have issues and behaviors we need to work on.

IMHO I would pull back on any of the things you would do as a spouse like you mentioned and instead focus on making changes to you. Your H has fired you as his W. I have not done any laundry, cooking or other things for H. Though he gladly seems to help himself to leftovers. What can you do! He needs to do those things on his own.

I hate to say it, but most of us on here have discovered there is an EA/PA, which is what makes it easier for them to leave. Have you started keeping an eye on your checking account? My H started making cash withdrawals so he can hide where he is going and what he is purchasing, working much later, late nights out, losing weight, etc. This has been the hardest part for me. One one the resource links you will what to get very familiar with is the detachment thread. It is probably the hardest to accomplish. I am still not very detached and I have been on here since mid-April. This is going to be a bit of a rollercoaster ride, so you need to start controlling your emotions and you can do that by detaching. Much easier said than done.

It also helps to post often so everyone gets familiar with what you have going on and can chime in. Again, some fantastic folks on here.