1) you want to tell her to come pack, because you want company or help packing your stuff. best thing to do will be to do it myself? I mean at the end of the day Ill do w/3 it takes help me go get her back. even its means packing a whole house by myself. well it our stuff.. tell me HONESTLY. Why do you want her help? Do you picture you guys spending a few hours together laughing having a great time, and all of a sudden you're back together.... Are you ACTUALLY concerned with the packing part? Be honest.
2) you think her life is simple and yours is hard. You think she should cater to you to balance this out. I just feel she got the easy way out. I dont wan her to cater to me but I do want her to see the reality of things, thats its not just saying I quit and living the life with 0 responsibilities. would it help me or benefit me in anything? don't think so maybe Im just hating..! she decided to end the relationship with you and to break up her son's family. Nothing about it is EASY for her. Think about the pain she must have been going through the last several years to reach the point where she was willing to do that. At this point, there's nothing you can do but let her make her own way. But be real - this wasn't a spur of the moment decision.
3) you think she is being lazy as a mother. Yes I do.. but don't want her to know that I think that about her even though I know she feels that way about herself.. it is not your responsibility to try to control how she interacts with your kid (assuming there's no abuse). It if she wants to spend "her days" letting her mom watch D2, that's her problem. Your daughter will only be this age for so long. Make your time special; don't worry about her time.
4) you want to have some alone time so you can convince her to get back together with you. yeah It looks bad.!!! what would u do different? its not that it looks bad. It's that it's not going to do anything helpful for you.
Did I miss anything? I'm not saying I agree with any of those thoughts above. But that's what I can see her taking from all of the things you said above.
