Before I do anything stupid I need to run this through u guys.. As I mentioned I told her that she should start packing this weekend, in my opinion it will be better to start tomorrow since Im off, but unfortunately she is not, should I tell her that I think she should come over tomorrow after work to start doing this thing? Im thinking to send her this text. " hey Im off tomorrow so I think It would be go to start packing tomorrow, I know u must be tired since its friday, but we don't have that much time anymore." anything that I should add or change or remove? why do you need to be there together to pack? She knows when your move out day is, right? Just start packing your stuff. Stop trying to control what she's doing. Ok will do, she already knows, I will start packing but I really don't want to do this alone its a pain in the neck, I just hate packing.! second thing once she is here how should I act what should I avoid doing, I know obviously no R talk, no perusing or trying to fix things, but anything else maybe something specific.? light, friendly upbeat conversation. Though, again, not sure why you need to do this together. Idk I think that none of us will do it by ourself, she have had a lot of time to pack all of her stuff w/o me being there but she hasn't,
Third thing is that I usually work the night shift 3 days a week so I get home around 1am and those 3 days I pick up my D2 at my W house at 6:10 am so I don't get much sleep, I was thinking in asking her if she could drop my D2 off tomorrow before she goes to work, I know she wont like the Idea cuz they're in opposites way, but Im kind of exhausted. the things that I see bad about this its 1) I have to initiate contact 2) ask her for a favor 3) must likely it will get her mad 4) if she says no or sends her mom to do it, it will get me very mad. You can ask. But I'd say something like "is it possible for you to drop D2 off here tomorrow morning?" But why would you be MAD if she says no? And why would you be mad if she coordinates your D getting there?!? It sounds like you just want an excuse for her to be at your house.
It will get me mad cuz she never wants to complicate her life for our D2 its always has been me the one that had to change his schedule around the baby, which it was one of the thing that led me to my depression, when we S I was the one that has to complicate my life and lack myself of sleep so I can pick the baby up. which now has me With major exhaustion, also she is been just resting her mom responsibilities to her mom which I think its not right. and yes I do want her home, since she MO we haven't been alone not even once and idk if she will open up or say something either good or bad, but I just want her to open up to me, even though she is not that type of person. no expectations but at least I want her to have the chance.'
