10 Months Later... XW Wants To Talk About Us?

[HPoirot]

Great points gogofo, Starsky, and Joe46. I am slipping back into that "must get it just right" thing like this "offer" from her is a real and once in a lifetime golden prize. If I just ignored this and she came back after more IC time with more commitment, that would be better long term R or no.

For now, I'll not ignore her emails. I'll go with a tweak on my words which I think says what all the sample replies you all offered says but in my own words...

XW. I heard what you said yesterday and you're right... these are important decisions that impact all our lives. I've given your words a lot of thought and yes together we should talk about us and how we might be a family again. No, I won't do that if you're seeing someone else. If things change for you before I leave for Florida, let me know when they do and I promise you we will have a good talk about us together with IC.

I validate her words, tell her what I will and won't do, give her a timeframe to do what I expect, and leave the rest up to her.

Done and moving on.

Thank you all again for your help. I really do hope this is helpful to anyone who gets to this point.

I remember when I felt desperate to get a chance to respond to an email like this. Now it's funny how this is such a pain in the a$$.

Now I will put on my spew jacket and not check my email until I go to sleep.

Onward.