I just saw that he messaged her on FB that he still wants to be with her. So, you're right, not really in the right place yet. It's so hard to tell. He seems to be flailing about looking for hope/help/love
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
I just saw that he messaged her on FB that he still wants to be with her. So, you're right, not really in the right place yet. It's so hard to tell. He seems to be flailing about looking for hope/help/love
That's why the rule is believe none of what they say and only half of what they do, right?
So if he's flailing around, why do you want to grab on? Let him go. Once he's more stable, then you're going to be able to have much more meaningful discussion.
lol, I hear you. I guess I don't always see the Taz...I still see the man I've known for 12+ years - and he sounded like it when he tried to communicate. But I know he's an "alien" during this.
I still don't understand Cadet's note about her job.
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
I don't want to speak for Cadet. But my understanding is that she can't stop his flailing around either. So you stand back, let that "relationship" implode, all the while, you are taking care of "kyrie". Only then can he realize what he's missing out on. That's when you can start to dictate terms. If you try now, he will just keep spinning.
Things are imploding... at least on the OW's part. But, he may try to cojole/manipulate her back too. Dunno. Plus, he keeps trying to communicate with me... that's why its confusing.
Me: 42, H: 38 Married: 12 years (second M for me) 14D, 9D 2015 EA (PA??), porn addict, *pastor/counselor* MLC
At a counselor, he said he wanted the marriage but not to work on himself w/a IC. Piecing?
